[Courses] [Spineful Living, lesson 6: Grief Support]

[Carla Schroder]

On Friday 11 May 2007 19:45, Carla Schroder wrote:
> ======Executive summary
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> "I'm sorry" and a big hug, and keeping in touch pretty much covers it.
> There aren't any big heroic deeds we can do; it's the little things that
> matter- being there and letting them know you care.

I forgot to mention that core notion here is "allow people to have their 
feelings." I don't know how it is in other countries; in the US it's almost a 
crime to express any feelings but happy happy joy joy. So when someone is 
grieving well-meaning friends try to cheer them up, or otherwise minimize 
their sad feelings. It is kinder and more supportive to simply be there and 
not try to be all jolly or to fix everything.
 
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