[Courses] [Spineful Living, lesson 3: 101 Satisfying Retorts For All Occassion]

[Rudy Zijlstra]

carla at bratgrrl.com wrote:
>> Myriam Schweingruber wrote:
>>     
>>> Le dimanche, 15. avril 2007, Doc Nielsen a écrit :
>>>
>>>       
>>>> On 4/15/07, Erinn Clark <erinn at debian.org> wrote:
>>>>
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>>>>> Just yesterday my sysadmin and I were talking and he kept, well,
>>>>> glancing at my boobs. So I finally said:
>>>>>
>>>>> "If you don't stop looking at my chest, I am going to break your
>>>>> neck."
>>>>>
>>>>>           
>>>> I have yet to find out why we men can't stop staring at cleavage,
>>>> but i have often cought my self doing it, and then cursed at
>>>> myself.
>>>>
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>>> Concentrate to look at her eyes!
>>>
>>>       
>> Thanks for that one.
>>
>> I have to concur to the wonder though. I do not like big ones, yet they
>> do draw attention, mine included... And i have no clue as to why.
>>
>>     
>
> This particular issue is one that I am impatient and unforgiving with. For
> [deity of your choice's] sake WTF is so hard about maintaining eye
> contact? When credible threats of physical harm are necessary to make an
> impression, something is way wrong. Who cares why? I don't care why. I've
> heard all the excuses. It's no secret that drooling over body parts,
> especially in a professional environment, is an unprofessional,
> disrespectful, hostile behavior. So don't do it. Easy peasey, simple as
> can be.
>   
For the record:
There is a difference between noting with yourself that attention is 
drawn and actually staring....

Its also honest to admit to the fact that attention is drawn.

If you want a clothing discussion, i am willing to play devils advocate ;-)

> I haven't worked in a corporate environment in years, so I'm probably
> behind the times here. If you're not comfortable saying something like
> what Erinn said, how do these sound:
>
> "Get out of my office. I do not speak to people who stare at my breasts."
>
> "Yes, I have breasts. Is it going to take a talk with human resources to
> remind you that I also have eyes?"
>
> Or butt, crotch, whatever the situation is. The idea is to confront it
> directly and leave no doubt that you are dead serious and it must stop.
>
> I think it's shameful that people even have to be told these things. But
> that's the real world, and we have to deal with it. In fact, that could be
> the official motto of this course- 'that's the real world, and we have to
> deal with it.'
>
> --
> Carla, still happy with hotel wireless
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