[Courses] chapter five: Running A Business- A little monomania is good

[Val Henson]

On Tue, Aug 20, 2002 at 04:54:26AM -0700, Carla Schroder wrote:
> On Tuesday 20 August 2002 02:07 pm, Jenn Vesperman wrote:
> > On Tue, 2002-08-20 at 15:26, Carla Schroder wrote:
> 
> > > Yes, I am suggesting that you dump your SO if they are whiny,
> > > obstructive, and unhelpful. Why would you want a person like that in your
> > > life for any reason?
> 
> I'm going to expand on this comment a bit, as it freaks out Chix everytime I 
> say anything like it. I believe with all of my heart that people should 
> follow their dreams, and find their true vocation, and do what they really 
> really want. I am not advocating haring off on some silly get-rich-quick 
> scheme- I am assuming you are smart, hardworking, and reasonably level-headed.
> 
> Men do this too, but women do it waaaay more: they give up too much of 
> themselves. I think when you decide there is a certain something you want to 
> do, you go do it. You do not let people derail you from your dreams, no 
> matter who they are. No one is worth giving up your dreams for.

This is very true.  I finally moved to Silicon Valley a few months
ago.  I'd wanted to move here ever since I graduated from college 3
years ago, but I didn't do it until now.  Why?  Before, I'd always had
a boyfriend in New Mexico when I was looking to change jobs.  Guess
what: they aren't in my life any more, but I still have to live with
my career decisions.  I feel more than a little silly for making those
decisions in retrospect.

Jenn said:

> > * your husband/children/friends are not your unpaid staff. Don't expect
> > them to answer your phones, unless you _pay_ them to. And if you do pay
> > them to, don't expect them to answer the phones outside the hours you
> > pay for.

Hear hear!  I was also an unpaid child secretary for a number of
years. :)

-VAL