[Courses] chapter five: Running A Business- A little monomania is good

[Jenn Vesperman]

On Tue, 2002-08-20 at 21:54, Carla Schroder wrote:
> Thanks very much for some great comments, Jenn. I'm going to add a little 
> bit, all are welcome to chime in:

Ok. I'd decided that I wasn't going to say anything more, that I'd said
my piece. But I have to thank you for your response to this. :)

> On Tuesday 20 August 2002 02:07 pm, Jenn Vesperman wrote:
> > On Tue, 2002-08-20 at 15:26, Carla Schroder wrote:
> 
> > > Yes, I am suggesting that you dump your SO if they are whiny,
> > > obstructive, and unhelpful. Why would you want a person like that in your
> > > life for any reason?
> 
> I'm going to expand on this comment a bit, as it freaks out Chix everytime I 
> say anything like it. I believe with all of my heart that people should 
> follow their dreams, and find their true vocation, and do what they really 
> really want. I am not advocating haring off on some silly get-rich-quick 
> scheme- I am assuming you are smart, hardworking, and reasonably level-headed.
> 
> Men do this too, but women do it waaaay more: they give up too much of 
> themselves. I think when you decide there is a certain something you want to 
> do, you go do it. You do not let people derail you from your dreams, no 
> matter who they are. No one is worth giving up your dreams for.

Whereas I consider that both Dancer and I chose to limit ourselves, to
some extent, for the sake of being married. Essentially, the limit is:
we will not do something that will seriously affect the other without
discussing it with the other.

Neither of us will adopt a child without the other's agreement.
Neither of us will strip the bank account of savings and go buy a sports
car (or an ultra-mega-computer) without the other's agreement.
Neither of us will start a business without the other's agreement.

His agreement and support is easy to get - and so is mine. 

If you have a dream like this, don't let 'I don't like it' stop you,
though. Find out why. Determine his/her concerns, and figure out a way
to make it workable anyway.

> Awesome horror stories, I would never do it that way!

Good. :)
 
> Excellent, every one.

Thank you.


Jenn V.
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