[Courses] [Spineful Living, lesson 6: Grief Support]

[Carla Schroder]

On Tuesday 15 May 2007 14:57, Renata Vidal wrote:
> Here in Brazil, we are know as a very happy people. When someone need to
> deal  with an illness or death in the family is so hard... I usually
> withdrew with myself. I have difficulty to deal with it because I deal with
>  illnesses and death many times in my family. So, when I see something like
> it I runaway, because I start to cry and cry and cry..... Its not usually
> to a woman hide their feelings, but I dont know why I'm this way... I thing
> I learn with the men to hide my feelings (I really dont know....)

It sounds like the US does not have a monopoly on telling people what they 
should be feeling! I wonder how this sort of thing came about. To me it's 
akin to denying our worth as humans. There is no such thing as "right" 
or "wrong" feelings; they are what they are. What we do about them is a 
separate decision; but denying them in the first place seems wrong, even 
cruel.

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