[Courses] [Spineful Living, lesson 1: Dreams]
Swaminathan, Gayathri
gayathri at ou.edu
Tue Apr 3 13:38:24 UTC 2007
Heya Clytie:
Firstly, my sincere wishes for your soon recovery from your ailments.
But I gotta say that list wowed me.
How refreshing!
I might have picks some of the suggested books from the library to get batteries recharged :)
Warm wishes
Gayathri
-----Original Message-----
From: courses-bounces at linuxchix.org on behalf of Clytie Siddall
Sent: Tue 4/3/2007 1:19 AM
To: courses at linuxchix.org
Subject: Re: [Courses] [Spineful Living, lesson 1: Dreams]
>
Some years back, when I was in hospital for several months, for the
first time in my life, I wasn't _being_ something for somebody. I
wasn't being a daughter, student, wife, employee, mother, voluntary
worker, whatever. I had nobody needing me to do things, expecting
things of me.
It was frightening. A huge blankness, and no tasks to fill it.
Lucky I was there so long. I wasn't able to ignore that situation. I
even had the opportunity to do an assertiveness training course,
which changed my life. I shudder now at how narrow, how externally-
controlled my view of life was at that stage.
I was completely unaware of the basic human rights on which the
course was based. I remember how blown away I was when I first read
them:
___
Basic Human Rights
1. The right to feel good about yourself
2. The right to act in ways that promote your dignity and self-
respect as long as others' rights are not violated in the process
3. The right to be treated with respect
4. The right to say "No!" and not feel guilty
5. The right to experience and to express your feelings
6. The right to slow down and think
7. The right to change your mind
8. The right to ask for what you want
9. The right to do less than you are humanly capable of doing
10. The right to ask for information
11. The right to make mistakes
___
I doubt if any of you are as spiritually impoverished as I was then,
but if any of these human rights don't seem completely intuitive to
you ... believe them.
They give us permission to be ourselves. Which is what we were
designed to be in the first place.
***
BTW, thanks for sharing about ambition. I've never been the least
ambitious, and felt guilty because of it. It's been another thing
other people have expected of me: vicarious success, in at least some
cases. But it's not me.
Now I feel better about it, reading that others feel the same. I
think ambition is perhaps a legacy of the male social structure. It's
competitive, linear, alpha dog. I grew up in that sort of system and
learnt to succeed in it.
It never felt right.
:)
from Clytie
Clytie Siddall -- Renmark, in the Riverland of South Australia
Apologies if this email is badly written or difficult to understand:
due to illness, the writer has cognitive problems, has great
difficulty typing and is severely debilitated.
Current Net communication capacity: only very occasional email.
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