[Courses] [Spineful Living, lesson 6: Grief Support]

[Rudy Zijlstra]

Mary Gardiner wrote:
> On Fri, May 11, 2007, Carla Schroder wrote:
>   
>> ======What not to say:
>>
>> I know how you feel
>> Things happen for a reason
>> You need to find closure
>>     
<dirtly look> Oh really? [for all of the above]
>> At least she is no longer in pain
>>     
Even though this can be consensus, stay away unless brought up by next 
of kin.
We knew father was dying for two weeks, and the last week was 
essentially a week long deathbed.
Be aware that in such cases, a internal family discussion can rage about 
the type of care of provide: only care to soften pain, or full-out 
trying to save? Or something in between? Dad had clearly indicated 
enough was enough, he did not want another hospital visit. Even so, 
there was internal family discussion on this which only resolved itself 
two years after the burial.

>> You need to move forward
>> Time heals all wounds
>> If that happened to me, I’d just die
>>     
please go ahead, just so you stop bugging me.

Rudy